Book review: Lost + Found: Finding Myself By Getting Lost in an Affair by David Trotter (9781935798019)

This book is an autobiography about a pastor of a substantial California ministry who realizes while he is on a mission in India, that he is unhappy with his family life and has an affair with one of his parishioners. Then after he returns from India he faces the wrath of many while he destroys the lives of his family and of his mistress’s family.  The mistress then decides to go back to her family while he slides into a mental breakdown.  But, no, it’s not over.  He decides to go back to his wife, “Laura is an incredible woman, and I am choosing to deeply love her.”   Choosing?  Seriously?  He blew his choices.  She was choosing him.  Oh, and the kicker, when he returns to his family he goes out and buys a Mercedes after he has racked up a whopping $33,000 credit card bill in just a few months and he has no income to pay for it.

David Trotter bashes his job, his wife and his kids throughout most of this book, giving us a long drawn out description about his affair, and then not giving us anything about his wife’s side of the story.  Does the author deserve some praise for baring it all?  Does one really see much remorse from him?  Has he really changed?  Only time will tell.

From the back cover:  David Trotter is a creative communicator with over 10 years of experience leading non-profit organizations.  He now invests his time writing and speaking on the subjects of life motivation, marriage, and spirituality as well as consulting businesses and organizations on marketing communications.

One last thing:  He has a blog at with a section on “Top 10 Reasons to Leave Your Wife”.  It’s everyone’s guess as to whether it is supposed to encourage someone to leave or stay.  Odd.  Very odd.

Book review: How to Get a Married Woman to Have Sex With You…If You’re Her Husband by Stephan Labossiere (9780984642809)

This is a quick reference guide for men (although women can learn a lot as well) written from a man’s point of view.  Mr. Labossiere believes “[the book] will, at the least, point you in the right direction and there are things that you will be able to take away from it to improve your marriage.”  Some sections of the book include Happy Woman = Happy Man, That’s the Last Darn Time and You Need Someone Else to Answer To.

In my opinion, I think the advice is sound, but you have to get your man to read the book.  Fortunately, the book is a quick read (a plus, because most men do not like to read), it has humor and let’s face it the title alone will make a man pick it up (my man did).  I found several points in the book to be very enlightening and have shared some of the suggestions with my significant other who has been very open to the ideas.  This is not just for married couples.

Mr. Labossiere lives in Atlanta, Georgia and is a relationship consultant to married and dating couples.  This is the first book in a series.  The book is available at  Check out my author interview with Mr. Labossiere at

Thank you to Stephan Labossiere and Bostick Communications for giving me the opportunity to review this book.