Book review: Lost + Found: Finding Myself By Getting Lost in an Affair by David Trotter (9781935798019)

This book is an autobiography about a pastor of a substantial California ministry who realizes while he is on a mission in India, that he is unhappy with his family life and has an affair with one of his parishioners. Then after he returns from India he faces the wrath of many while he destroys the lives of his family and of his mistress’s family.  The mistress then decides to go back to her family while he slides into a mental breakdown.  But, no, it’s not over.  He decides to go back to his wife, “Laura is an incredible woman, and I am choosing to deeply love her.”   Choosing?  Seriously?  He blew his choices.  She was choosing him.  Oh, and the kicker, when he returns to his family he goes out and buys a Mercedes after he has racked up a whopping $33,000 credit card bill in just a few months and he has no income to pay for it.

David Trotter bashes his job, his wife and his kids throughout most of this book, giving us a long drawn out description about his affair, and then not giving us anything about his wife’s side of the story.  Does the author deserve some praise for baring it all?  Does one really see much remorse from him?  Has he really changed?  Only time will tell.

From the back cover:  David Trotter is a creative communicator with over 10 years of experience leading non-profit organizations.  He now invests his time writing and speaking on the subjects of life motivation, marriage, and spirituality as well as consulting businesses and organizations on marketing communications.

One last thing:  He has a blog at with a section on “Top 10 Reasons to Leave Your Wife”.  It’s everyone’s guess as to whether it is supposed to encourage someone to leave or stay.  Odd.  Very odd.

Book review: Modesty (Excuse Me, Miss Series #2) by Phillip Thomas Duck (E-book)

The second book in Phillip Thomas Duck’s Excuse Me, Miss series follows Terri Welker who photographs philandering men in the act for James Boston Investigations.  One day she finds out that the man who raped her several years ago is dead and the life and the man she left behind on that terrible day have come back to haunt her.

Mr. Duck’s continues his interesting short fiction series in the world of infidelity and suspense.  Another strong, but vulnerable woman with past secrets.

Thank you to Mr. Duck for giving me the opportunity to review his book.

Book review: The Bird Catcher by Laura Jacobs (9780312540234)

Margret Snow is lonely and figuratively lost at sea.  After the tragic loss of her husband, Charles, she loses interest in her promising job of dressing windows at her friend Emily’s art gallery and at Saks Fifth Avenue in New York City.   Instead, she is a secret, amateur taxidermist by night, finding small dead birds in the city parks and near buildings to take home and stuff.  “[She] always had a Baggie in her pocket, just in case she found something fallen.”  Margret’s fascination with birds started with her Grandfather Milton who was a birder and entomologist who took her bird watching when she was young.

Jacobs’ writing is poetic and very descriptive, especially in the way she describes Margret’s love of birds.  “To find them and lift them off the ground.  To hold them weightless in her hand.  To smooth with the side of a finger the nape of a broken neck.  It filled Margret, this ownership of something that cannot be owned.”

This is a novel about a woman with an unusual hobby, but the story is good and encourages you to find out what happens to Margret and her bird collection.  I also enjoyed the detailed descriptions of Margret’s window dressing projects.  A fascinating job unto itself.

Thank you to Laura Jacobs and  LibraryThing’s Early Reviewers for giving me the opportunity to review this book.  You may find more information on Laura Jacobs at

Book review: How to Get a Married Woman to Have Sex With You…If You’re Her Husband by Stephan Labossiere (9780984642809)

This is a quick reference guide for men (although women can learn a lot as well) written from a man’s point of view.  Mr. Labossiere believes “[the book] will, at the least, point you in the right direction and there are things that you will be able to take away from it to improve your marriage.”  Some sections of the book include Happy Woman = Happy Man, That’s the Last Darn Time and You Need Someone Else to Answer To.

In my opinion, I think the advice is sound, but you have to get your man to read the book.  Fortunately, the book is a quick read (a plus, because most men do not like to read), it has humor and let’s face it the title alone will make a man pick it up (my man did).  I found several points in the book to be very enlightening and have shared some of the suggestions with my significant other who has been very open to the ideas.  This is not just for married couples.

Mr. Labossiere lives in Atlanta, Georgia and is a relationship consultant to married and dating couples.  This is the first book in a series.  The book is available at  Check out my author interview with Mr. Labossiere at

Thank you to Stephan Labossiere and Bostick Communications for giving me the opportunity to review this book.

Book review: One Day by David Nicholls (9780307946713)

Emma and Dexter meet in college, have one night together and become good friends.  Friends is not Emma’s choice, but Dexter’s playboy lifestyle and irresponsible attitude is what it is.  The book gives us a look at what Emma and Dexter are doing on July 15 of every year from the day they meet in 1988 through 2007.  We see their struggles in life and relationships and how they help each other out through it all.

Personally, I found them both to be immature throughout, especially Dexter, and the book seemed to drag on too long.  I felt for Emma during her struggles, but I could care less about Dexter.  I guess raising these emotions in a reader is what the writer intended to do, so it worked for me.

There are a few funny moments, but I found the story pretty sad.  Now a major motion picture.

Thanks to BookBrowse for giving me the opportunity to review this book.

Book review: Fortunate Son by Walter Mosley (031606628)

The story is about two boys brought together by fate and torn apart by fate. Thomas is a young boy man born to a single mother who meets a white, widowed doctor with a young son of his own, Eric. Thomas and Eric become very close growing up in the wealthy doctor’s home in California, but when Thomas’s mother dies unexpectedly, Thomas’s father comes to take him away from the only family he had ever known. From there Thomas’s life is sad and lonely while he drops out of school at a young age and sells drugs on the street. Ironically, Eric’s life is also sad and lonely in that he cannot seem to love anyone like he loved Thomas and his mother even though he excels in everything he does and attracts people who love him dearly. Eventually, Eric and Thomas brought together again in a shocking reunion.

I admire the character, Thomas, for his love of life despite his terrible experiences, but this book is pretty depressing starting when Thomas is taken away from the doctor’s home.

The book tells us that luck is irrelevant.  Thomas was lucky that he still believed in love even though his life negated that feeling, and ironically, Eric was lucky in his life status, but unlucky in love.

#BookReview: First Comes Love Then Comes Money by Bethany & Scott Palmer @themoneycouple @HarperCollins ‏

Have you ever spent money without telling your partner? Have you ever applied for a credit card without your spouse knowing? If so, you are cheating on your loved one. It’s called financial infidelity.

This book is more about saving your relationship than saving your money. The Palmer’s are professional financial advisors and they have determined that people have five money personalities: The Saver, The Spender, The Risk Taker, The Security Seeker, and The Flyer. They then proceed to help you identify your and your partner’s money personality, find your “financial infidelity quotient” by taking a short 19-question quiz and then teach you rules to communicate financially with your partner. The book has several case studies, including examples from the authors’ own relationship, which opened this reader’s eyes to what extent financial infidelity can affect a relationship.

I have to admit I was anxious to read this book because my fiancé and I were already having financial disagreements. The hardest part for me was to identify my own financial infidelities and then get my partner to read this book and identify his. I believe that this book will help us better communicate about finances and most importantly be sensitive to our partner’s feelings. This is a new and important look at why so many relationships fail and how we can possibly save them before it is too late.